Change is a fixed and inevitable element of life. Despite common reluctance to it, it has always been accompanying humans and it constitutes a part of development. How to deal with new situations?
Depending on personality, character and the gained experience, three basic attitudes towards change adopted by people can be distinguished. Some of them think that change is something scary and uncomfortable. It is the most frequently encountered attitude and in accordance with it, change is related to the loss of the sense of security, stability, or confidence. Such attitude limits human development. For numerous people, change is a predictable and imminent process, for which they can prepare since they can learn how to manage it. It is the attitude adopted by those who see the reality as it really is. People accepting the fact that change and development exist, deal with the modern world much better. Such attitude allows a quicker adaptation to new conditions. Finally, some people wait for changes and they fully understand this phenomenon. These people are cognizant of the fact that progress is good and it requires sacrifice. It is the lifestyle of the leaders, visionaries, and those focused on personal development. Changes result in activity and the lack of stagnation as well as they lead to the release of both human creativity and ingenuity.
Why don’t we want changes?
There are several reasons for human reluctance to new situations. Firstly, it is being accustomed to the already existing order of things, which gives the illusion of stability and control over the reality. Consequently, it provides people with the sense of security that plays a crucial role in human hierarchy of needs. People who associate change with the loss of security are afraid of losing their priorities, values and peace. Fear of the unknown – it is the strongest stimulus against changes.
People build their world and environment on the basis of their own perception, filters and vision of the world. Human brain selects stimuli and information from the outside world in such way so that they match the vision previously created by it. Indeed, it is connected with the need for security and protecting the psyche. Unfortunately, all the above-mentioned reasons limit development. The key to introducing changes wisely is understanding the phenomena emerging within us and using them for a practical purpose.
How to deal with change?
The basic method is conversation and support. Change is supposed to be analysed and discussed. With close people, employees, friends, or oneself. Decomposing it causes the change in perspective and the attitude towards the reality. The analysis of benefits and losses is also a positive activity as it enables noticing new chances in every situation. Accepting change in both private and professional life is easier, when we let ourselves make mistakes. We must leave ourselves a margin for error. Participation and getting involved are also effective. Not only should we accept change and observe it, but also create it and introduce actively so that it becomes an element of our reality. In case of serious, regrettable, or traumatic changes, support offered by specialists is to be drawn on for they can help us to go through this process in the appropriate way. We shouldn’t be afraid of changes. They are inevitable and in the twenty-first century, they are almost the synonym for the reality. But for progress, there is no development, and but for changes, there is no humanity.
Olga Szymańska, a coach for business and personal development